It reminds me of the discussion that was going on back in October, after Jill at Feministe was taken to task for her post on being a “Fun Feminist.” At the time, my opinion was “The measure of feminism’s tolerance should not be how well one conforms to any particular aesthetic, but how willing one is to embrace a myriad of aesthetics. …[T]he moment we flatly refuse to champion a space for women whose aesthetics differ from our own, we veer dangerously close to the inflexible dictates of the dominant culture we mean to change. I didn’t become a feminist to assume the very role I despise.”

And, you know, months later, with radfems now pitted instead against the trans community, my position has changed not at all, aside from, perhaps, becoming thismuch more intractable.

Thanks for stopping by again. And, yes, I do think most ex’s should be told to go fuck themselves, I’m all for a clean break with people when it ends.

For example, my ex-girlfriend and I used to follow the routine of dating exclusively, cheating on each other, talking, fighting, fucking.. and then back to dating. It was exhausting!

The finality of the situation should be embraced, so one doesn’t have deal with friendly repeats. I always say, a person has to make room in their life for the good love to come their way, which usually involves thoroughly purging the ex from one’s life.

Unfortunately, often times, it does require obscenities to get the point across, especially if one partner is far more attached than the other. It’s a little harsh, is it not? But it gets the job done.

Speaking of getting the job done…. I’m always up for releasing negative enegy….especially with a person as endlessly interesting such as yourself.

~Ms. S.S.

I have started to respond to the “Are you a feminist?” question with: “I am a humanist” — precisely because of those issues that go beyond human rights and (ironically) make “feminine” choices into something suspicious.