Comments on: The Other Side http://www.martiabernathey.com/the-other-side.htm Breathing is life, but loving is living. Thu, 07 Jan 2010 12:06:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: SamanthaQ http://www.martiabernathey.com/the-other-side.htm/comment-page-1#comment-637 SamanthaQ Fri, 20 Feb 2009 01:23:07 +0000 http://www.martiabernathey.com/?p=450#comment-637 Ah, see that, that was the part of what you were saying back at that point that I missed. Frankly, I quite agree. Then again I never really understood people having attitudes about people they don't knwo kind of thing. I've not held any meaningful hostility toward you either, just the lingering confusion which I'm pleased to say is now gone. You really distinguished yourself in my eyes as a stand up gal when you reached out to Janice a while back when I asked if you would. She's still amazed by that. She's also doing a whole lot better, and finally making some progress. She's working at Sony now, and is actively working toward full time instead of wallowing in her pain. I'm glad Madison is working out well for you. You deserve to be happy, to have some peace in your life, some progress, and family is a good thing too. I don't know that I'm HBS, especially given some of the really far right views they hold. In way a bit too rad even for me. Plus they tend to be clickish and distancing too. So I guess I wasn't doing a very good job of communicating back then. I'm very sorry about that. Ah, see that, that was the part of what you were saying back at that point that I missed. Frankly, I quite agree. Then again I never really understood people having attitudes about people they don’t knwo kind of thing.

I’ve not held any meaningful hostility toward you either, just the lingering confusion which I’m pleased to say is now gone.

You really distinguished yourself in my eyes as a stand up gal when you reached out to Janice a while back when I asked if you would. She’s still amazed by that. She’s also doing a whole lot better, and finally making some progress. She’s working at Sony now, and is actively working toward full time instead of wallowing in her pain.

I’m glad Madison is working out well for you. You deserve to be happy, to have some peace in your life, some progress, and family is a good thing too. I don’t know that I’m HBS, especially given some of the really far right views they hold. In way a bit too rad even for me. Plus they tend to be clickish and distancing too. So I guess I wasn’t doing a very good job of communicating back then. I’m very sorry about that.

]]> By: admin http://www.martiabernathey.com/the-other-side.htm/comment-page-1#comment-634 admin Fri, 20 Feb 2009 01:02:35 +0000 http://www.martiabernathey.com/?p=450#comment-634 Thank you for apologizing. Not because I was hurt, but because most people aren't as gracious as you. Thank you for your generous compliments. I can understand why some folks go stealth, but I DON'T understand the attitude towards those of us that stand up and out. My blog posts are rarely personally pointed. I'm glad that you stopped by. I've not held any hostility towards you at all. I have friends that are HBS, even. My move to Madison has proved to be the best thing I've ever done. I've found family here. :) Thank you for apologizing. Not because I was hurt, but because most people aren’t as gracious as you. Thank you for your generous compliments. I can understand why some folks go stealth, but I DON’T understand the attitude towards those of us that stand up and out. My blog posts are rarely personally pointed.

I’m glad that you stopped by. I’ve not held any hostility towards you at all. I have friends that are HBS, even.

My move to Madison has proved to be the best thing I’ve ever done. I’ve found family here. :)

]]> By: SamanthaQ http://www.martiabernathey.com/the-other-side.htm/comment-page-1#comment-633 SamanthaQ Thu, 19 Feb 2009 23:51:24 +0000 http://www.martiabernathey.com/?p=450#comment-633 In retrospect, I'm sorry I bit your head off a while ago. I can see some more of what Janice finds so great about your writing. Heart and soul. I too find the clicks and exclusivity of the "so called" community insane and self defeating. It's part of why I was so hard on you about beating up on "stealth" folks. We wind up where we are BECAUSE the community is so savage and brutal. Anything that increases that dissonance isn't helping anyone. "Stealth" is a defense against the "all tranny all the time" and "trannier than thou" crap that only divides people. Life is too short to willingly suffer that crap. Lori and Donna both speak highly of you, as does Janice, so I thought I'd look around a bit more and here I am. Hope is a good thing to hold onto lady. It's kept me alive more than once. And hey, congrats on getting your name and gender change done! Awesome news. Feels good don't it? Sorry to hear about the bombshell though. I've recently become aware that it's almost a certainty that my "Dad" wasn't actually related to me at all. Certainly not by blood. It's taking some getting used to. Sam In retrospect, I’m sorry I bit your head off a while ago. I can see some more of what Janice finds so great about your writing. Heart and soul. I too find the clicks and exclusivity of the “so called” community insane and self defeating. It’s part of why I was so hard on you about beating up on “stealth” folks. We wind up where we are BECAUSE the community is so savage and brutal. Anything that increases that dissonance isn’t helping anyone. “Stealth” is a defense against the “all tranny all the time” and “trannier than thou” crap that only divides people. Life is too short to willingly suffer that crap. Lori and Donna both speak highly of you, as does Janice, so I thought I’d look around a bit more and here I am.

Hope is a good thing to hold onto lady. It’s kept me alive more than once.

And hey, congrats on getting your name and gender change done! Awesome news. Feels good don’t it? Sorry to hear about the bombshell though. I’ve recently become aware that it’s almost a certainty that my “Dad” wasn’t actually related to me at all. Certainly not by blood. It’s taking some getting used to.

Sam

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